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Dealing with rejection

February 24, 2012 Leave a comment Go to comments

Thinking a few weeks ago with a group about what missionaries need if they are to last in the ministry.  We all agreed that most evangelicals lack an adequate theology of suffering.  I don’t think this is limited to any one age group or generation but the younger generation may be facing an even more fundamental challenge–that of dealing with rejection.

Heard this quote when I was watching Castle (Season 4, Episode 3)  last night.

“Rejection is not failure.  Failure is giving up.  Everybody gets rejected. How you handle it determines where you end up.”

And then I read Mickey Goodman’s article, “Are We Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids.” She quotes Tim Elmore,

“We are consumed with protecting them instead of preparing them for the future. We haven’t let them fall, fail and fear. The problem is that if they don’t take risks early on like climbing the monkey bars and possibly falling off, they are fearful of every new endeavor at age 29.”

Here are a few uncomfortable solutions to the problem that Goodman and Elmore suggests

  • We need to let our kids fail at 12–which is far better than at age 42
  • Kids need to align their dreams with their gifts
  • Allow them to get into trouble and accept the consequences.
  • Balance autonomy with responsibility.

A favorite song of many evangelicals is the popular (Don Moen?) song, “God is Good.”  Well, that is partially right but may tends to ignore the harsh realities of life.  Randy Stonehill’s song, Life is Tough, God is Good, might be closer to the whole truth. Enjoy the following version.

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