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Hold off on that angry email

September 8, 2009 Leave a comment Go to comments

angry friendsFor those of us over forty, do you remember any letters that you wished you hadn’t mailed?   For all the rest of us, are there any email responses that we wished we had not made to an rude or at least what we perceived as a rude email to us.  And then, there are the text message wars that can happen in the blink of an eye over a dropped letter or capital letter etc.  If you are even half as guilty as I have been, the following from Henri Nouwen may be of help.

When you write a very angry letter to a friend who has hurt you deeply, don’t send it! Let the letter sit on your table for a few days and read it over a number of times. Then ask yourself: “Will this letter bring life to me and my friend? Will it bring healing, will it bring a blessing?” You don’t have to ignore the fact that you are deeply hurt.

You don’t have to hide from your friend that you feel offended. But you can respond in a way that makes healing and forgiveness possible and opens the door for new life. Rewrite the letter if you think it does not bring life, and send it with a prayer for your friend.   From Sept 4 2009 Henri Nouwen Society

In looking for a good picture to go with this post, I discovered the following post from Michael Hyatt, made in 2007.  Actually, his blog looks like one I need to look at on a regular basis. Well done!  His post “Stop, Dont Send that Angry Email” is a keeper.

  1. Charlie
    September 10, 2009 at 10:36 pm

    Interesting. I recently read a lengthy piece about Michael Hyatt and have read quite a few of his published articles. Good stuff. I was surprised to discover that he is Antiochan Orthodox. Just didn’t seem to fit the profile of a CEO of a publishing company that has such deep evangelical roots.

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