Outstanding post on lessons learned about how to be a better man from the now defunct tv show Friday Night Lights. Here are the main points but read the entire well written article
- Relish the underdog role
- A man needs to come to peace with his father
- Nurture manliness
- A man seeks redemption
- Texas forever (remember your roots would be my paraphrase for those not from Texas)
- A man’s closest ally is his wife
- A man needs a team
- Clear eyes, full heart, can’t lose (When you have a clear conscience and play with everything you have, you can never lose)
Here is someone on the road to redemption and I hope he makes it!
If you are a basketball fan, you will remember Dennis Rodman–his defense, his rebounding, his flamboyance! I have not followed his life after basketball but I am guessing that it has been rough–likely much of it self-inflicted. Just watched his rambling acceptance speech into the basketball hall of fame (thanks to the heads up by Jon Acuff at Stuff Christians Like) and I value his honest and hard words about his failure to be a good son, a good husband and a good father–many of these words could be my own as well. How moving to hear him describe the men in his life! I pray that God may give Dennis grace to continue to live a transformed life even as I pray that for myself.
In a most unusual post, Brett and Kate McKay write about how to lose with dignity and celebrate with grace. Beginning with the gracious way the American Civil War ended between Generals Grant and Lee, ending with the victory of Churchill over Chamberlain in 1940 and with American football in between, the Mckay’s come up with the following principles.
Accept responsibility for the loss.
Bow out gracefully.
Acknowledge the winner.
But a failure to acknowledge the victory of your fellow competitor shows a lack of respect for him; a man can be your rival, but you can still admire his courage and his fight, and the fact that on this day, he fought harder. Sulking away also shows a lack of discipline on your part—you are so overwhelmed with anger and grief at your loss that you cannot think of anything else but your own pity. Being able to control your feelings in that moment is the mark of strength and self-control, not to mention perspective.
And in some cases, even support the winner.
Learn from the loss and move on.
Thanks to Tyler Stanton for the link to the following videos
For the foodies in my life
For my fellow global nomads
And finally, for all of us committed to life long learning!
After reading a book summary on Alone Together by Sherry Turkle, I copied a few quotes. I am not saying I agree with everything she writes (especially since I have not read her entire book) but she is touching on some tender topics. Looks to be a helpful analysis along the line of The Shallows. I have some great stories that come to mind after reading her quotes but I better refrain for the sake of my own safety and because I could incriminate myself!
- “In the new etiquette, turning away from those in front of you to answer a mobile phone or respond to a text has become close to the norm. When someone holds a phone, it can be hard to know if you have that person’s attention. A parent, partner, or child glances down and is lost to another place, often without realizing that they have taken leave.” (161) “
- “Texting makes promises that demand: the person will receive the message within seconds and will attend to it immediately. Texting is pressure. “Longed for is the pleasure of full attention, coveted and rare.”
- The new etiquette is efficiency. People reassured at a distance. On the phone they might say too much. Things could get “out of control.” A call feels like an intrusion. (190)
- We send so much and receive so much from so many, that we are ‘consumed with that which we are nourished by.’ (207)
- “Connectivity becomes a craving… We are stimulated by connectivity itself. We learn to require it, even as it depletes us.” (227)
- The cell phones are a symbol of physical and emotional safety. This is a new nonnegotiable: to feel safe, you have to be connected. The phone is comfort.
- “Technology helps us manage life stresses but generates anxieties of its own. The two are often closely linked.” (243)
- As we try to reclaim our concentration, we are literally at war with ourselves. Yet, no matter how difficult, it is time to look again toward the virtues of solitude, deliberateness, and living fully in the moment.” (296)
From Alone Together by Sherry Turkle. Quotes courtesy of book notes at DavidMays.org
Trying to figure out what Chesterton meant by the following:
“In the last resort the exaggeration of sex becomes sexlessness . . . Sex is the bait and not the hook; but in that last extreme of evil the man likes the hook and not the bait . . .”
A friend suggests the following:
- The bark is louder than the bite–we talk more and act less;
- When we do act, we are not sure what to do with it–like a dog running after a bus;
- Sex is really a false sense of intimacy, we want intimacy more than sex; we think it is the end but really it is a means to the end (intimacy)
- We are screwed and screwed up, that why Jesus came to save and sanctify us.
Reminds me of Rob Bell’s Sex God in which he links sex with spirituality saying we think sex is about this but it is really about that–that being God. Here is my post on that book.
I like the following quote from Gary Thomas’ Pure Pleasure which I just finished,
If I find my pleasure in Starbucks alone, I am at the mercy of a company that may go out of business. If I seek my pleasure in sex alone, I make myself vulnerable to a fading, aging body—as well as to the cooperation of a partner. If my pleasure is in a business, I remain subject to the whims of my consumers. But if my life has been a single journey always pointing me to find my fulfillment in God—urging me to see each earthly pleasure as a reflection of his kindness, goodness, and love—then my ultimate pleasure has become more certain than anything this world can offer.
So what do you think?
Over our twenty-five years in a multi-cultural organization, I thought my speech patterns are not a dead give-a-way that we were from the southern U.S.
But when looking for a word to invite a group of people over to the house, nothing quite beats Y’ALL as in “Hope we see y’all on Saturday night.” Or for that matter, y’all is the best when saying goodbye to a group as in “See y’all next week.” At least I don’t say, “howdy y’all” anymore–not that I ever did in the first place. But now I read that y’all likely originates from dear old Scotland and Ireland. Maybe that is why we get along with the Irish? So, now, I can stand tall when I say, “Y’all come back now.” Y’all has quite a proud heritage.
For more, check out “The Remarkable History of Y’all” on the Dialect Blog. As they say, “One word. Two continents. Three shores. Four centuries. Five separate dialects. Wow.”
Americans could only answer correctly 50% of the questions on a very simple religious knowledge survey. Three main areas on the survey: knowledge of the Bible, knowledge of other religions and knowledge about role of religion in public life of America. Interesting stats
- Athiests/agnostics, mormons and those of the Jewish faith have a higher level of overall religious knowledge than do protestants
- Mormons and white evangelical protestants know more about Christianity than do other groups
- Jews and athiests/agnostics have a higher level of knowledge about other faiths and about religion in public life than do other groups
Interesting paragraph on bible reading
- Many Americans are devoted readers of Scripture: More than a third (37%) say they read the Bible or other Holy Scriptures at least once a week, not counting worship services. But Americans as a whole are much less inclined to read other books about religion. Nearly half of Americans who are affiliated with a religion (48%) say they “seldom” or “never” read books (other than Scripture) or visit websites about their own religion, and 70% say they seldom or never read books or visit websites about other religions.
Click here If you want to take a quiz representing an abbreviated form of the questions asked. I scored 87%, missed a question on public prayer being allowed in America and one other.
NOTE: Following is an update on a previous post.
Does holiness provide refuge or bring condemnation? Gary Thomas in The Beautiful Fight says, “A holy man or woman is a spiritual force, a “God oasis,” in a world that needs spiritually strong people.”
The world needs holy men and women because it needs people transformed by God.
Isaiah 32:2 says, “Each man will be like a shelter from the wind and a refuge from the storm, like streams in the desert and the shadow of a great rock in a thirsty land.” Thomas writes the following:
A holy man or woman is a spiritual force, a “God oasis,” in a world that needs spiritually strong people. When the winds of turmoil hit, such people become shelters; their faith provides a covering for all. By their words and actions, by the ways they listen and use their eyes to love instead of lust, to honor instead of hate, to build up instead of tear down, holy women and men are like streams of water in the desert, affirming what God values most. When the heat of temptation threatens to tear this world apart, godly men and women become like the shadow of a great rock. These God oases carry Christ to the hurting, to the ignorant, to those in need. They will be sought out–and they will have something to say. 48
Mark Buchanan mentioned Resurrection by Piero della Francesca as his favorite painting of the resurrection.
Storytelling is an old form of communication. But it is not just for oral cultures. Even our written cultures connect with storytelling.
In Mark Miller’s Experiential Storytelling: (Re)Discovering Narrative to Communicate God’s Message, Miller is attempting to motivate and model this old communication form so that the church can reach today’s postmodern generation. He writes because he believes there is much at stake for the church. Listen to Miller,
“I believe in the church. Christ died for it, and the Spirit moves it. Further, it is the primary instrument God has chosen to use on earth. If that is not a reason to be more creative in our communication, then I am at a complete loss. . .I also hope that you can be a part of creating a culture of creativity in your church that will eliminate the restraints on innovation.” 75
I think it is safe to say that Jesus would never have imagined much less dreamed about how his name is being marketed today!
Because of the problems with the church as it currently exists, many seem to be opting out of attending today, preferring to meet with a small home group. That has its own set of problems! A Time article, cited at the Kruse Kronicle, suggests that a reason to go to church is to build relationships. And those relationships will improve your well-being.
As important as this is, there must be other reasons to go to church. Question: why do you go to church?
Update on Monday morning: I did go to church yesterday. Didn’t get much out of the message but the total sum of the service–worship, prayers, people, helped me to remember that I am not alone in this faith journey and the service led me into the presence of God, who is wholly other. I needed that! So, I guess in the end, it is all about God and that is the way it should be.
“Fighting like the devil for the prince of peace” goes the song “Piece of Me” by David Wilcox which I just downloaded. In the song, Wilcox talks about the “body of Christ being torn limb from limb,” unfortunately from within.
Here is a link to another song, called Little Fish which speaks sharply to the church’s involvement in politics.
For Stephen Colbert, truthiness not truth best describes what is happening in American politics and I suspect in the reporting of American politics. Colbert coined the word in 2005 since, what he was “driving at wasn’t truth anyway, but a mere approximation of it — something truthish or truthy http://truthy.indiana.edu/, unburdened by the factual.” (from Ben Zimmer’s article Truthiness in the NY Times). Even though Colbert no longer feels the need to use the word truthiness, it became the 2005 Word of the Year.
Zimmer interviewed Colbert about truthiness in a subscriber only article on Virtual Thesaurus. According to Colbert:
“It’s really about feelings rather than thought. That’s really what the debate is about — it’s like what feels right to you, as opposed to what you know is right.”
And it’s not even really about truth. I’m not asking people what truth is, because truth is too easily associated with fact. So I said, “Well, it’s not truth. It’s like truth. It’s truthish. It’s truthy.” But I needed a noun. So I said, “It’s truthiness.”
You know, “truthiness” sounds wrong, because truth should be absolute — even though we all have truths and mine isn’t the same as yours. “What is truth?” said Pilate. But even though we all have our own truths, they are absolute. By saying “truthiness,” you’re implying that what you’re saying is only an “ish” of the absolute.
What I liked it about it was, it names that what I’m saying is not accurate. It names that what I’m saying is not really true. But what’s really true is not important.
I think if you just look around you, I doubt that many people in American politics are acting on the facts. I think everybody on both sides is acting on the things that move them emotionally the most. And that is the most successful way to behave. By keeping fear alive, we are keeping truthiness alive at the same time. Action out of emotion is all that truthiness is about — making your decisions based upon how you feel. Right now, it seems like fear is the strongest emotion that motivates us.”
Back to Zimmer’s NY Times article, “Truthiness, Colbert pointed out, is in no need of restoring, since it continues to define those who appeal to raw feelings at the expense of facts. “I doubt that many people in American politics are acting on the facts,” he observed ruefully. “Everybody on both sides is acting on the things that move them emotionally the most.”
Donald Miller shows how recent allegations against high profile evangelical leaders reveal a greater problem in the church. My favorite quote:
“I think there is a sickness in the church and it’s not about homosexuality, it’s the church’s absolute inability to deal with its own humanity and it’s culture of image-projection over truth.”